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2M Ae te eGR lis 3s soy LA TI Differing Class Views Often Dom Marri If her spouse were to develop a passion for modern’ painting, or to take up cello playing as a hobby, she would feel perplexed and even a little disgusted. class wife, on the other hand, views By DR. JOYCE BROTHERS (Copyright, 1863, by Dr, Joyce Brothers) NEW YORK (NANA) Andre “‘orumbeanu may or may not be a’ ing — the man. Marriages involving any or all of these drawbacks do some- times succeed. se @ But—Cinderelia notwithstand- nuptial knot which i rtistic accomplishment as a rtune hunter, and his estranged‘ attempts to bind Partners from | ® n fe, Gamble Benedict, may or|radically different social classes a 2 ive r in and desirable male rarely holds fast. The simple reason, too often slighted by democracy-loving Americans is , this, upper-, middle-, and lower-~ class persons usually make mar-= kedly different assumptions about the nature of marriage and family life, and these unconscious differ- 2. ences are so profound. The family opposition which The typical working-class rrounded this union could have woman, for example, has been “a Overcome. So could the' raised to the belief that an ideal siderable age-difference, and husband ix a strong masculine he- - fact that groom was # divorced man with no “feminine” interests, eee" She Finished Third “ay not be a spoiled and silly ung woman. I've never met ‘her of them, and frankly, 1 n't know. But even assuming e best will and sincerest inten- ms on the part of both parties, + Porumbeanu-Benedict marri- ‘© was earmarked for early fail- Money, Pleasure, Or Duty Or, take the subject of employ- ment. Among the so-called “lower” classes, work fs a pure and simple meal ticket. A women belonging to this socio-economic class would be dismayed if her husband announced that he was throwing over his fob for one thet “interested him more,” at lower pay. But the upper - middle (professional). class views work as a major source of emotional ful- fillment, - ° The established Upper classes take stitl a third wiew of work. They see it as an obligation to the community. A eotidty upper- class citizen takes responsibility as tt falls his way, placing pubtie duty before cither financial gain or vocational self-expression. And now let's take a running look at some other rarely men- tioned, but marriage-making-or- breaking differences in social-class attitudes, ? * Infidelity: Lower-and upper- class women feel that even the best of men may lapse occasionally, and that a wise wife knows when to look the other way. see Middle-class wives More moralistic. Money; “cohspicuous consump- tion” was once deemed a middle~ class failing, but these days the lower classes are equally devoted to its pursuit. The middle-class emphasis has switched to “taste- ful” consumption. A securely upper-class woman will dismiss over-concern with furniture as a symptom of vulgarity. Permissive Parents Child-rearing: As with jnfidel- ity, we find both ends splitting -; against the middle. At the ex- tremes of the social scale, “spare the rod and spoil the child,” is still a respected maxim, The middle-classes have always been more permissive. * * e Leisure-time pursuits: The lower classes like to relax and “put their feet up.” Lower-middle are much NANA Prete an international track meet at Budapest, Mary Bignal ind of Britain was leading in the 80-meter hurdles when ¢ hit the last barrier. She got up to place third, after Anna- Tt of ness with neighbors as a violation | age tere hands of governesses and taste and privacy. She will be, tutors. bored and insulted by some of the/ Many psychologists and sociole~ doty relatives her husband erpects The upper-!her to entertain frequently. He will regard his casual flirta- tons with other women as ingigni- ficant and natural, She wilt feel betrayed. 0 She will wish to be close to and indulgent with the children. He wil insfst that they are better pre- Pared for life if place in the aus- Skylines - Outspok gists are now beginning to feet that the odds for happiness are actually greater when two neur-~ oties of similar social background enter a marriage, than when twe more stable persons “from dis- similar classes foin. ’ The moral is that the holes In your head. should fit the bumps in your spouse's, en-Veronica Lake Retains Beguiling Voice By WARD MOREHOUSE NEW YORK (NANA) — Ve- ronica Lake left Hollywood ia 1951 and hasn't been back, ex- cept briefly to pick up a divorce. She got out, she says, because “I wanted to be a himan being in- stead of the walking dead. They said I'd be back in six months. They were wrong.” Veronica was m one-of-a-kind picture star ofth e 1940s Small, Slender, definitely nonvoluptuous, she did not fit the Hollywood mold. Yet something—her insouc- fant air, perhaps, or her seductive Veronica Lake voice, or the cornsilk lock falling across the right eye — incited a warm response. And so the public made her a star, job. If 1 choose to wear slacks, and I do, that’s nobody’s business, I wanted to be left alone in my own life,” : Two months ago Veronica made her New York stage debut . in the Off-Broadway revival of “Best Foot Forward,” playing a movie star. She has been af- fered two Broadway roles and ia now reading the ecripts. She can be chooay. “John Van Dre- ten offered. me ‘I Am a Camera,’ but I turned it down.” It be- came a hit for Julie Harris, Veronica can be dismayingty~ plainspoken. She is scornful of most gossip columnists and the other day told one of them where he could go in an outburst that must have shattered his ego. She . doesn’t relish the actorish atmos- phere of Sardi’s — “I don't need it.” AS she says, she does not like sham. Famous Bronde Foreleck As a Star she weighed 94 pounds; today her weight is 103, Her blonde hair (“It's natural) stitl has a way of falling across the eye and her voice retains its beguiling quality. Her blue-eyed Gaze is direct and challenging, She was born Constance Kean in Brooklyn, and grew up in Sar- , anac Lake, N.Y. in Miami end Montreal. She went into motioa pictures at the age of 17, soon acquiring a new name. “Arthur Hornblow Jr. geve me the name. He said Verenica expreseced my classic features and Lake the coolness In my eyes. | was accused of breaking up Hollywood's model marriage srie Kovacs of Hungary and Mary Peters of Ireland. How- er. the spill upset her and later in the evening she started » soon in a relay race and disqualified her team. ».00fs Sicilian Amour, ains Their Gratitude \LTABELLOTTA, Italy +)+-Pietro Germi, the Italian ve who won an Academy d poking ironic fun at Sicil- ‘ttitudes an marriage, divorce eduction, has been presentde naissance monastery by the eo whase customs he spoofed. ne cigar-chewing director made four filme in Sicily, ing here for the first time 15 & ago. Germi won the Hol- sod award for screen play Divorce—-itatian Style.” He te here shooting “Seduced Abandoned,” a wry film an gun marriage. -pherds and peasants came to seremony from around and :, by donkey, cart adn foot on {| who share certain key tastes and dusty roads meandering over scorched hills to the main piazza of Caltabellotta. Presented Keys “This is a gesture of our affec- tion,” the mayor said in giving Germi the keys to the monastery, “We wish to express the apprecia- tion we Sicilians have for your films, even if apparently they poke fun at certain aspects of our customs. Now do what you will with this renowned edifice: You may transform it into a rest home or a gay hotet.* Local legend says the monastery was once the home of a dragon who ate a baby for breakfast. A saint, San Pellegrino, slew it in the monastery’s “grotla del drago.” Men and women enjoy keeping on the go, physcially. The upper- middle class seeks personalized self-expression. — oe @ Friends and Relatives: The lower-middle class socializes with neighbors and business associates, while the upper-middle selects an assortment of far-flung intimates inclinations. . Upper-class men and women are socially loyal to relatives (even black sheep), childhood compan- ions, and ® handful of carefully selected friends. fm ilght of thie knowledge, we can easily predtet the pitfaite and Problems most likely to arise when an inter-class marriage takes place, when, for instance, a b1ue- blooded pelnce charming weds his Jower-tmiddie-clase secretary. Conflict Of Attitudes She will be astonished to find him watching pennies quite closely, and conclude that he is cheap. He wil! accuse her of extravagance, or even gold- digging. He will view her casual friend- said, put Veronica in it; when owe anybody anything outside my (Hornblow and Myrna Ley) but it aimply wasn’t true.” A still photograph made at Randolph Field for “I Wanted Wings,” showing her caught in the prop wash of a plane, - was widely published. “People began asking who I was and suddenly the studio had «@ star on its hands, I think the public named me the Peekaboo Girl. It was an acci- dent, the way my hair fell across my eye. It wasn't planned.” She has three children, all born in California. The divorce she Picked up out there set her free trom. Andre De Toth, the Hun- garian-born director, “Having been married to him for seven and » half years, I know what they mean when they say if you have e@ Hungarian for a friend, you don’t need an enemy.” BIKINIS COVERED * MUNICH, Germany (WNS) — Sign over a bathing-suit display at a students’ dress shop on Aka- demiestrasse: “Our bikinis cost $5 plus a written authorization signed by one of your parents.” < Bhe’s lived in Now York fer the past 12 years, and joves It. “When | come through « tun- net er over a bridge, | breathe a sigh of relief: I'm home.” She has not been steadily employed aS an actress, although whe did make a national tour in “Peter Pan” and hae filled a number of stock company engagements. She still appears on the screen, but aow it’s the home screen. In a recent month five motion pic- tures starring her were shown on television here. People recog- nize her on the street and ask for photographs. She Hates Sham - “I'm not bitter about Holly- wood, not cynical,” she said. “ had a contract with Paramoun: when I left there, but I wasn't doing what I wanted to do. Every time they had a lousy script, they they had a good one some visiting fireman got it. “There's another thing. I don’t like sham, and I never have. When I do a job I do it to the best of my ability, but I don't think 1 ,